"Get" to Do vs. "Got" to Do
Jan 06, 2021
Your Language is Probably Making Your Life Difficult
Happy New Year, everyone.
"Got to do" vs. "get to do". That's what I'm talking about today.
This is an easy and fast tip to help you frame almost all of the work you do: in the "office" and at home. Are you describing your work as "got to" or "get to"?
In other words, are you saying, "I gotta do that"/"I have to do that" or "I get to do that"?There is a BIG difference between the two. I first came across this concept in 2006 when I read Vance and Carol Ann Caesar's book, The High Achiever's Guide to Happiness. This book is amazing. Every leader should read it. I once participated in a weekend retreat led by Vance, and he is a powerful speaker and thinker. This book is always the first one I recommend to my 1:1 executive coaching clients. In the book, Vance shares a memory of how, when he was a teenager, a high school coach clued him into the difference between "get to" and "got to." Is it an obligation? Or is it something you choose to do? You want to do? Or it is something you are forced to do? That you must do?I've been using this concept with my 1:1 coaching clients for years, and recently Dan Pink shared similar thinking in one of his short Pinkcast videos. Dan speaks--in under 2 minutes--about how your language can impact your desire or motivation to exercise. He speaks about a behavioral change scientist named Michelle Segar, author of the book No Sweat. (And BTW, if you haven't read any of Dan Pink's books, you need to or I want you to "get to". To Sell is Human is my favorite with Drive a close second.)So, when exercising, do you think you . . . "got to" exercise or "get to" exercise?Getting and staying motivated about exercise is something I get to do this year.I want you to think about your language. I want you to think about how you are framing things.
What are you saying to yourself and others--all day long? I'm guessing there is a lot more "got to" vs. "get to."
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